Theory of Reverse Psychology - postulated by Prof Pritesh J Rasquinha
Theory
In short Theory of Reverse Psychology says,
"When someone’s doing something right and it goes wrong do the wrong it may go
right" - P.J
OR
"For every action there is equal and opposite reaction, hence do the opposite to get the right reaction for the wrong action" - P.J
Explanation -
Long ago when Newton postulated his 3rd law of Motion and Heisenberg postulated his Uncertainty principle they were both thinking of applying their theories to human psychology more than anything, but failed to do so. But only "Theory of Reverse Psychology" makes this dream of Greats come true.
When I first heard of this theory from PJ I didn’t believe it would work in this humane world ruled by uncertainties, but it does work like his charm on all the girls.
Initially it took time for me to get a grasp on this theory but when the Master was always there with me it wasn’t so difficult in the end.
The best application of this master philosophy is when you are with a gang of friends and you goto a common place just to eat or drink but you don't have a place to sit because it's crowded. Apply reverse psychology and take your whole gang to the table with least people and join them. Now since the people already seated there have no clue why you are there and looking at the size of gang they will eventually move out.
One more stunning application of this theory is to attract the opposite sex, when you know someone's watching you instead of responding with a glare just do the reverse i.e. IGNORE, as they say "Ignorance is bliss" and this bliss will help you get the undue attention. Anyways it's very hard to apply until you rate yourself amongst the best looking people around.
The tag line for this philosophy is – “It works like axe effect minus the axe”
The actual application of this philosophy is in our daily lives. Like in the song - "Awarapan Banjarapan" which is one of my favorite songs, there is a line "kaha kisi ke
liye hai mumkin, sab ke liye ek sa hona" which is indeed so true. But if you achieve what this line says you cannot! you will reach the utmost level of inner peace I think. People around you don't expect you to be nice and true always but do the reverse of what they might think of you. Be nice and true to them always even when they are not the same with you, it isn't so difficult. This will, at some point of time bring a change in their attitude and hence the reverse effect. You'll see the hatred turn into likability and likability turn into respect in the end.
It is indeed difficult to practice what you preach, but I try.
- Dev
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Last day mail @ Infosys
As a dialogue in the movie “Asoka” goes –
A Monk predicting Emperor Ashok’s future says – “Tumhara bhaagya Samraat se uncha hain!”
Ashok – “Samraat se uncha bhaagya kiska hota hain?”
Monk – “Samraat se uncha bhaagya ‘Ek Yatri’ ka hota hain jab woh apni yatra sampann kar leta hain!”
Main bhi ek yatri hun jo apni ek yatra sampann karke doosri yatra pe chal pada hun. Mujhe nahi pata mera bhaagya kisse bada hain aur mujhe naahi apna bhaagya kisi Samraat se uncha bana naa hain, Mujhe toh sirf apni yatra puri karni hain.
Meri is yatra ke jo humraahi the unko mera hrudaypurvak dhanyawad. Aapki yatra bhi safal rahein aur aap sabka bhaagya kisi Samraat se kum naa ho.
Now coming back to reality after the filmy dialogue, 22nd Sep 2008 to 28th Jan 2011 @ Infosys has been the most awesome time spent in my life.
Thanks to everybody who shared this valuable part of my journey with theirs.
The Beginning J,
Mahadev M Surve.
Monday, April 27, 2009
"A vote is like a rifle; its usefulness depends upon the character of the user."
I had taken a leave on 23rd of April so that I can vote for the first time in the general elections, but my idea of choosing the people to run my country was just an illusion I guess. I didn’t have too much work to fall back on as a reason to not vote, hence I took a leave of 2 days to go and exercise my vote from my hometown “Dandeli” part of the “Uttara Kannada” constituency.
The city in itself is a very well developed one with a literacy percentage of above 85% I guess at the least. So my idea was that since it’s a mature and sensible city I would find many people turning out to vote. But that didn’t happen! I reached my hometown at 8.00 am and was ready by 10.30 to go and exercise my vote. I was excited and asked each one in the family to give their opinions of the party to vote for, my parents for some reason did not want to disclose whom they would vote for. Whereas I and my sister had a kind of brainstorming session on the party to vote for, finally we both agreed on a particular party and decided to vote for it.
At 11.00 am I drop my father to his polling booth and then went back to get my mother. I go into the polling booth accompanied by my mother; they give some slip of paper which has details of our registration number and the polling booth number. We have to give the slip in our respective booths and then show our voters ID card or any of the ID’s recognized by the Government of India, like PAN card, passport etc. They strike down our names as present and apply the indelible ink on the left pointing finger. Now we proceed to the hidden section of the booth where we vote by pressing a button beside the party symbol you want to vote for. I did just that and the process was over.
Now what amazes me is the very little time it took me to complete the entire process of voting, exactly 2mins and 20secs. What puzzles me more is the number of people who didn’t have only this much time to invest in the future of their country. In the evening my father came back from the polling booth with a sheet of paper in his hand which had details of the days voting in the city. Which revealed that only and only 40% of people had exercised their vote? In the evening I hear the NEWS channels reporting 34% of voting in the district, what a shame for being called a democratic district part of a “Great Democracy” which they say is “India”. As far as I can understand about the city I am from, it has a very huge population which either studies or works outside the city in places like Bangalore, Mysore, Pune, Mumbai etc. Since the cities are far from “Dandeli” they cannot come so far to vote I guess. This doesn’t however take away the fact they are just irresponsible one way or either. I bet most of the migrated population would not even have voters ID card also, neither from Dandeli nor at the place they live now for education or work, so forget about voting from any place. Most of the people would preferably enjoy a long weekend as a good break from their hectic lives but wouldn’t spare these 2mins for their future. I wonder if all this 75% of the population of India being aged less than 35yrs will ever benefit us at all as the great economists are predicting, because a countries growth depends both on the privately funded organizations that they work in and a publicly voted government also.
This wasn’t the case when the voters ID card were being distributed, there were long queues to get their ID card. I was happy to see so many people wanting to vote, but as I stood in the queue to get my voters ID card I met a senior lecturer from the local Degree college standing beside me. I started dicussing the voting trends and the way elections were held in the city. Firstly he said he was tired standing in the queue to get his renewed voters ID card, but he had to do it he said. With so many people in the queue he frustratingly said I bet not even 50% of the people want their ID because they want to vote instead want an identity proof which claims they are Indian and that they can enjoy the rights, privileges and the invaluable freedom that their beloved “Great Country” provides them. He gave a very interesting point of view about elections, the elections are held only for the poor or the lower middle class people. And the rest of the section of the society really didn’t care because it would never make a big difference to their lives.
He was put into a number of election duties earlier and he said he had hardly seen doctors, engineers, corporates, businessmen etc rarely come down to vote. Most of the people who vote where daily labourers, House wifes, small scale businessmen, employees of the Paper Mill that the city has and some section of learned few. Sometimes, he said that because the turnout was so less that they were ashamed to report the details of just 10 people turning up out of 1000 people in the list. Also he said that the teachers who were put onto the election duty would have to take some special permission to vote from the place they have been put to work. Now if so many people and sections ignore the process of voting I don’t know what the consequences hold for us may be bad roads, impure water, bad climate, corrupt people and institutions, communalism, regionalism, increase in crime and what not!!! This was the situation for the biggest of elections in the country, I guess nobody would not even know when the statewise or city elections go on.
I don’t necessarily mean that voting is the only way that any change can be achieved but it is surely one of the ways. It means you are as responsible for all the right and wrong that goes on in the country as the politicians or the bureaucrats are. It means that 2mins is like a drop of your time that can become an ocean of changing time. With just 40% percentage of voting reported it’s just the 40% voices heard from your side rest 60% are just numb watchers to the helpless situation that they and their countrymen face. It not a huge investment I guess but its worth it every second of it. I being a responsible citizen did it out of curiosity and sheer chance to do it; because I don’t live in a country like Burma, where army rules and is found helpless when its citizens are dying after a cyclone; I don’t live in a country like Pakistan, where democracy is an imaginative word; I don’t live in country like China, where citizens are treated like prisoners who should just follow orders, I live in a “Great Country” and I am just lucky enough to be living so freely and enjoying my freedom to its utmost. Democracy is a beautiful way to be heard and elect your representatives to run your country, believe me.
The city in itself is a very well developed one with a literacy percentage of above 85% I guess at the least. So my idea was that since it’s a mature and sensible city I would find many people turning out to vote. But that didn’t happen! I reached my hometown at 8.00 am and was ready by 10.30 to go and exercise my vote. I was excited and asked each one in the family to give their opinions of the party to vote for, my parents for some reason did not want to disclose whom they would vote for. Whereas I and my sister had a kind of brainstorming session on the party to vote for, finally we both agreed on a particular party and decided to vote for it.
At 11.00 am I drop my father to his polling booth and then went back to get my mother. I go into the polling booth accompanied by my mother; they give some slip of paper which has details of our registration number and the polling booth number. We have to give the slip in our respective booths and then show our voters ID card or any of the ID’s recognized by the Government of India, like PAN card, passport etc. They strike down our names as present and apply the indelible ink on the left pointing finger. Now we proceed to the hidden section of the booth where we vote by pressing a button beside the party symbol you want to vote for. I did just that and the process was over.
Now what amazes me is the very little time it took me to complete the entire process of voting, exactly 2mins and 20secs. What puzzles me more is the number of people who didn’t have only this much time to invest in the future of their country. In the evening my father came back from the polling booth with a sheet of paper in his hand which had details of the days voting in the city. Which revealed that only and only 40% of people had exercised their vote? In the evening I hear the NEWS channels reporting 34% of voting in the district, what a shame for being called a democratic district part of a “Great Democracy” which they say is “India”. As far as I can understand about the city I am from, it has a very huge population which either studies or works outside the city in places like Bangalore, Mysore, Pune, Mumbai etc. Since the cities are far from “Dandeli” they cannot come so far to vote I guess. This doesn’t however take away the fact they are just irresponsible one way or either. I bet most of the migrated population would not even have voters ID card also, neither from Dandeli nor at the place they live now for education or work, so forget about voting from any place. Most of the people would preferably enjoy a long weekend as a good break from their hectic lives but wouldn’t spare these 2mins for their future. I wonder if all this 75% of the population of India being aged less than 35yrs will ever benefit us at all as the great economists are predicting, because a countries growth depends both on the privately funded organizations that they work in and a publicly voted government also.
This wasn’t the case when the voters ID card were being distributed, there were long queues to get their ID card. I was happy to see so many people wanting to vote, but as I stood in the queue to get my voters ID card I met a senior lecturer from the local Degree college standing beside me. I started dicussing the voting trends and the way elections were held in the city. Firstly he said he was tired standing in the queue to get his renewed voters ID card, but he had to do it he said. With so many people in the queue he frustratingly said I bet not even 50% of the people want their ID because they want to vote instead want an identity proof which claims they are Indian and that they can enjoy the rights, privileges and the invaluable freedom that their beloved “Great Country” provides them. He gave a very interesting point of view about elections, the elections are held only for the poor or the lower middle class people. And the rest of the section of the society really didn’t care because it would never make a big difference to their lives.
He was put into a number of election duties earlier and he said he had hardly seen doctors, engineers, corporates, businessmen etc rarely come down to vote. Most of the people who vote where daily labourers, House wifes, small scale businessmen, employees of the Paper Mill that the city has and some section of learned few. Sometimes, he said that because the turnout was so less that they were ashamed to report the details of just 10 people turning up out of 1000 people in the list. Also he said that the teachers who were put onto the election duty would have to take some special permission to vote from the place they have been put to work. Now if so many people and sections ignore the process of voting I don’t know what the consequences hold for us may be bad roads, impure water, bad climate, corrupt people and institutions, communalism, regionalism, increase in crime and what not!!! This was the situation for the biggest of elections in the country, I guess nobody would not even know when the statewise or city elections go on.
I don’t necessarily mean that voting is the only way that any change can be achieved but it is surely one of the ways. It means you are as responsible for all the right and wrong that goes on in the country as the politicians or the bureaucrats are. It means that 2mins is like a drop of your time that can become an ocean of changing time. With just 40% percentage of voting reported it’s just the 40% voices heard from your side rest 60% are just numb watchers to the helpless situation that they and their countrymen face. It not a huge investment I guess but its worth it every second of it. I being a responsible citizen did it out of curiosity and sheer chance to do it; because I don’t live in a country like Burma, where army rules and is found helpless when its citizens are dying after a cyclone; I don’t live in a country like Pakistan, where democracy is an imaginative word; I don’t live in country like China, where citizens are treated like prisoners who should just follow orders, I live in a “Great Country” and I am just lucky enough to be living so freely and enjoying my freedom to its utmost. Democracy is a beautiful way to be heard and elect your representatives to run your country, believe me.
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